prochoice_maryland | Mother Declares Her Children are the "biggest Regret of her life" (Reply)

You know how some of the opposition like to pull the "many women regret abortion" as a way to try to get abortion illegalized? Well, you can show them this article of a woman who regrets having kids.

Let's talk about the mom who regrets her children. Last week, the Daily Mail published a first-person story by Isabella Dutton, a 57 year old mother of two who declared her children to be "the biggest regret of her life." Since the Daily Mail is possibly the internet's leading purveyor of "human interest in hating other humans" stories, it goes without saying that the article incited (and was intended to incite) a monstrous tsunami of scorn.

"A mother could never regret her children." It's a truism. But considering the life-altering effect of children on their mothers, it seems impossible that it could really be a universal truth. Isabella Dutton is clearly very unhappy. She feels trapped by the intense demands of her children, calling them parasites. I know lots of mothers who feel this way sometimes. But feeling like your kids are sucking your life force is one thing. Feeling like they "give nothing meaningful back in return"? That's something different.

Dutton believes she simply lacked the wiring for motherhood. She never wanted kids, but didn't want to deny her husband the experience. But then she says some things that make me wonder whether her feelings might have as much to do with the choices she made as a parent than her choice to be a parent in the first place.

I did leave a comment on that link in the comment section because I was pissed off at what the woman in the article said about women who work outside the home as well as others in the comment section. It lead to me writing this:
It's frustrating to be a woman when you get harped upon for any choice you make. You get bitched at if you don't want to have kids because many in society seem to think that it should be everyone's goal in life to have kids. Then, when you do choose to have kids but you work, you get harped upon for not taking care of your kids when these same people have no fucking idea that there's only twelve weeks of maternity leave in the US. Once those twelve weeks are up, you either decide to grudgingly go back to work to pay the bills and afford to take care of your family (with many people, one person working ONE job isn't even enough anymore to sustain a two person family with no kids) OR you choose to stay home to take care of the kids. Yet, if you decide to go back to work, you're accused of being irresponsible by letting someone else raise your kids even though you're the one financially providing for them so they can eat, have clothes on their back, and have a roof over their heads. If you decide to stay at home with the kids, you're bitched at for mooching off of your spouse (if you're not a single parent that either had the man run off on you while you were pregnant or die in some tragic accident...because you know, not every single fucking thing in our lives can be controlled by us) or living off the goverment.
However, I just wonder why so many people can't let other people live their lives their own way while they live their life their own way. Why do people want to judge and control others just by how they live their life rather than minding their own business and focusing on their life as well as their child? (I do have a theory, but I will keep it to myself).